Jacki, another thought...

We speak about those opposing forces, right?  How I get it?  How we both experience them?  Makes definition seem like an impossible feat; perhaps that's just it:  we really are the Steppenwolf (yes, read it!  Hermann Hesse):  that's the definition.

With that said:  Why not create a project juxtaposing the construct of what your upbringing has created with the fears of what new, creeping ideas, experiences may be summoning.  You are two.  Show it.  Again:  just a thought.

From a multiple brotha!